The young usually have a glum view of the world. They feel misunderstood and they feel like they don’t fit any-where.To get a dialogue going, we have to empathize. We have to show them that we REALLY care because we have been THERE.We have been through anguish. We felt out of place, we got depressed, we cried, and we wanted life to end because it was painful.
We have to reveal to them that we want to lessen the misery bit by bit.. we are not magicians.. we can’t “woosh” the suffering away! Only then will they start to listen.
They feel that life is overwhelming and people make it worse by expecting too much of them instead of wanting their well-being and happiness.
NOTE: You have to stop pushing your son and daughter to be better versions of you.Start painting a picture of the real world.. starting with the good things first..Count their blessings for them.. show them how lucky they are today.. they have choice in everything..They can go into business on their own or they can be employees in the country of their choice.. they have lots and lots of career choices.. They can even make their hobby their career…Let them know you are there for advice, support, listening and a shoulder to cry on.
Let them know that failure is an option, it happens.. and that you wont think any less of them if they failed.. as long as failure is part of the quest for happiness and success.
When they warm up to your new role in their life.. move on to the next step.
Identify their strengths.. in life. Agree to some goals to achieve.. small to large.. bit by bit. Make those goals achievable, make them important.. and show true happiness when those goals are reached..
Workwise.
Point them to outside advisors and mentors who could advise them on career and happiness. Be involved, comment on their progress, ask them whether they are enjoying their life.. Be a true friend, and be genuinely happy for the success.
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